7 Tips For A Happy Life
Do you ever wonder why some people are so happy? Not those extroverts who are always ready to party, I mean those every day people who just are always happy? Ever wonder how they got that way?
Most of the time, have you noticed those people are older? Think of your grandmother, older physician, priest, professor, older mentor in your life or a random older person you run into in the grocery store. Do you want some of that good energy? Did you know you can get it too? Let’s dive in to how to be happy with myself.
There are tips on how to be happy, it is not innate. Our psychological default is negativity. That self-talk on the loop in our heads is always and I mean always going to default to negative feedback unless you take it over.
I’m not sure why we’re designed that way. Perhaps evolution, perhaps upbringing, generational programming, not sure, but there’s hope. You don’t have to stay stuck in the loop. How to be happy with myself is a cognizant journey and effort. Everyday you have to work at it until it become habit and your lifestyle.
TIP # ONE
How to be happy with myself secret is you control your thoughts, they don’t control you. (Read that line again, and then maybe a third for forth time until it sinks in)
Take notice next time something upsets you, you can control your reaction. Do you know the saying “it’s not what happened to you, its how you reacted to what happened”?
Let’s say you’re in line at the grocery store and someone behind you starts putting their items on the belt before before you’ve finished unloading your cart, but you’re almost done. Perhaps that’s a little too much for you and you feel rushed and that they’re invading your personal space. Just take a breath. Reach over and grab the separator bar and place it between your orders. Take another breath. Think about forgiving thoughts, maybe the person is in a hurry. Maybe they have a sick family member at home, or maybe they didn’t think their action was invading your space at all. People can be oblivious.
Don’t be quick to blame or get aggravated, turn and smile at the person and remain calm. The more you repeat the this habit (if it’s something that annoys you) you will eventually no longer have the reoccurrence. Once you learn to manage the situation it won’t repeat, that’s another secret on how to be happy with myself.
So pay attention to how you react in any situation and lean towards calmness and forgiveness first. Let go of being angry or having people conform to what you want them to do, just let them be because you have no idea what is going on in their life. Smile more in every situation.
TIP # TWO
Have a positive mindset. Shift your thinking. This is a great time on how to be happy with myself. Everyday when you wake up create a positive mantra for yourself. You can say it aloud, write it down, journal about it or mediate on it, but do it every single morning. “Today is going to be a good day.” Is all you need to say. Say it, repeat it until you believe it. You will believe it when you notice it actually starting to take place in your life. My mantra is “Everything is working out for me” and it does. I’ve been saying that mantra for years. I actually started saying it when my life was in complete chaos. It could not have been further from the truth when I began and learned this lesson.
When you start off your day with good intentions, it sets the tone for your day. This takes practice, but eventually you will start to see it working in your life if you stay with it consistently. Journalling is a great way to start, but again you can just say it out loud, you can chant in to yourself in the car driving to work. Over and over. You don’t have to believe it in the beginning, you’re in the stage of being open to hope here. Hope for a better life on how to be happy with myself.
Let’s remember that in the beginning you will have old mindset things showing up and that’s okay. The were planted by your old mindset. Forgive yourself for that way of thinking and when you experience something negative, remember those will appear less if you remain consistent to the practice.
Now the disclaimer is this practice does not absolve you from any negativity in your life, because life is that way it is, but it will most certainly reduce the amount of incidents.
TIP # THREE
Do something for yourself everyday. How to be happy with myself begins with yourself. What do you enjoy doing? Nature walks, singing, salt bath, dancing, drawing, yoga, meditation, reading, what do you like to do? Set time aside to do one thing for yourself that brings you joy. Even if it’s only 15 minutes, do it. Commit to it. Notice how you feel afterwards. Pay attention.
I recommend placing time on your calendar or in your phone and don’t let anything or anyone interrupt that time for yourself. This is a key step, don’t skip it.
TIP # FOUR
Get some physical exercise in three times a week for 30-60 minutes. Try to get exercise that raises your heart rate. This could be walking fast, taking a group fitness class, hot yoga, cycling, basketball or running. Clearing out your system with toxins and moving the blood throughout your system is very healthy. (Be sure to clear this with your physician before beginning any exercise program). How to be happy with myself begins with self-love. Exercise is a form of self love. Just like eating and sleeping, we need to move our body daily.
Set the days and time for this routine and commit to it.
TIP # FIVE
Be mindful who you hang around. Are the people you choose to hang with happy? Do they gossip? Are they “Debbie Downers”? You know what I mean, the people who are always looking at problems and want to talk about problems, their problems, the world’s problems, their friend’s problems, they just want to talk about negativity. If you have friends like this, that is the energy field you’re allowing into your field. How to be happy with myself includes taking control of who you associate with and your environment. Pay attention here and observe.
You could try changing the subject and redirect the conversation to be non-subjective. You could tell the person you’re on a happiness challenge and really am trying to not entertain any gossip or discuss other people’s problems.
Limit your time with negative people if you cannot remove them from your life completely.
TIP # SIX
Pay attention to how you speak, what you listen to on the radio and what you watch on television. Is your environment one filled with noise, external noise? Radio, news blaring in every room of your house, in your car, at work? Change it.
A great way on how to be happy with myself is paying attention to what you’re listening too. What are you subconsciously programming yourself? Try listening to audio books. Try listening to ambient music in your house and turn off your television, especially the news. Did you know television’s frequencies are low on purpose? The megahertz are low to engage in agitation and negativity. Don’t believe me? Try turning it off for one entire week and see if you don’t feel different. See if you home’s energy has changed. Be sure to open your windows to let the old energy out of your living environment.
TIP # SEVEN
Do something for other people. When you give to people, whether it’s you time, kindness, monetary or just being their to listen, it is powerful. The greatest gift we can give each other is kindness and love.
Try to be mindful of this daily. It can be as simple as smiling at a stranger, letting someone in front of you in traffic, holding the door for someone or buying someone a cup of coffee. Some people like to volunteer and help their community in ways they need. Whatever resonates in your heart, do it. If it feels good, do more.
Here’s a secret. Some of the happiest people on the planet have had the roughest life. Those people know what it’s like to fall hard, go through hard times and it was the kindness of others that helped them in their darkest hours. They know and understand that people act harshly sometimes because of what is going on in their own personal world. It doesn’t have anything to do with you. So have a kind forgiving heart and help them in that weak moment without saying a word to them.
Did you know that for some people, when you smile at a stranger it’s the nicest thing anyone has ever done for that person? Did you know there are people who have no one in their life to smile at them or care about them? So your random act of kindness, that smile that cost you nothing, has tremendous impact and that can only find it’s way back to you.
SUMMARY
The French love their cologne, you control how much you want and the scent, How to be happy with myself is the same concept of moving out into the world with a wonderful energy and scent. In summary, how to be happy with myself is 100% in your control. Take the steps outlined in this blog for starters and tag me on social media with your happy selfies! Let’s live your best life now!
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